Detoxification and the Gall Bladder

The next step in detoxification involves the gall bladder.  The gall bladder is the container for bile.  Bile is a byproduct of the liver that aids in the digestion of fat.  Since bile can contain as much as 85% water, dehydration can be a contributing factor in gallstones.  The more concentrated the bile, the greater the risk of stones. 

When fat passes the bile duct, bile is released to aide in the digestion of fat, which keeps bile flowing.  A low fat diet can decrease bile flow.  It may be helpful to take a tablespoonful of olive oil daily to aid in bile flow. 

Some individuals perform a liver/gallbladder flush of which there are many variations.  The program involves drinking apple juice (acetic and malic acid) with Super Phos 30 (phosphoric acid) for 3 days.  On the evening of day 3 you mix and drink one cup of olive oil, one cup of coke and the juice from one lemon.  You then lie down on your right side in the fetal position for 30 minutes.  The acids are supposed to demineralize gallstones, and soften them so they can be passed.  The oil and coke mixture passes the bile duct causing the expulsion of the contents in the gall bladder.  Many will report passing stones.

Once you have ensured that your gallbladder has been emptied then you can move to a liver support product.  The last thing you need is to use liver support that will increase bile production before you have regular bowel movements and good bile flow.

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Detoxification Part Two

If you are going to start some detoxification program, it only makes sense to decrease the toxins that come from the outside of the body.  These are toxins that can enter the body by inhalation, thru the skin and mouth.

I love the example of a room full of puppies.  Do you keep cleaning up after them or put them outside?

An example of inhaled toxins include cigarettes, gasoline fumes, solvents, cleaning fluids, and welding fumes to name a few.  The use of chlorinated cleaning solutions in a poorly ventilated bathroom is adding to your toxic load.  Other inhaled toxins include a cold virus, mold, or some airborne bacteria that can create an acute or chronic problem.

Toxins that enter the skin include gasoline, solvents, cleaning fluids, pesticides, herbicides and metals.  It is rarely considered that children playing on chemically treated lawn can absorb such chemicals.  Also, swimming in pools or sitting in a jacuzzi allows for the absorption of chlorine.  Golfers playing on wet grass have the potential for absorbing all the course treatment chemicals.  Metals include aluminum from antiperspirants, lead in paint, and mercury from amalgams (dental fillings).  The injection of some drug products such as the flu vaccine or hepatitis B vaccine contains toxic material. 

Toxins can also be ingested and include chemically treated foods, fluoridated water or toothpaste, chlorinated water, parasites, or bacteria.  Gardeners that want their vegetables to stay insect free use sevin dust as a chemical intervention.  How about spraying with a weak soap solution as often as needed?

While in this world it is impossible to completely avoid external toxins, you can certainly take steps to decrease your overall load.

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Natural Detoxification Part One

I always get questions about how to do a “cleanse” which is another way of saying detoxification.  Basic detoxification is a daily wellness activity.  Toxins can be normal waste products internally created by our body’s normal function.  Toxins can also be substances from outside of our body in our water, food, personal care products, drugs, chemical products (cleaners, pesticides, herbicides), dental materials, and microorganisms. 

Your body naturally detoxifies via exhalation of carbon dioxide, sweating, urination, or through bowel movements.  Acute detoxification includes a runny nose, vomiting, or diarrhea.  Another type of detoxification could be a pimple or a boil that discharges toxins directly thru the skin.  There are some basic principles of detoxification as follows.

 Being well hydrated(Got Water Blog) is the first principle.  You must have water intake in order to dilute and process toxic substances.  This obviously includes urination, but dehydration can also contribute to constipation.  Joints also require fluid for synovial fluid that lubricates and cushions joints.  Undiluted toxic material in joints allows for inflammation and pain. 

The second principle is good bowel movements.  Every time you eat the food creates movement in the gut.  Having less than one bowel movement per day is constipation.  Fiber(Got Fiber Blog) is vital as it acts as a broom to sweep the colon; absorbs by products of bile from the liver decreasing the possibility of reabsorption.

The third principle is good bile flow.  Dehydration is a factor in thick bile that does not flow properly.  The liver creates waste that flows thru ducts from the liver into the gall bladder.  Bile contains byproducts of liver detoxification including components of hormones and cholesterol.  Bile also is used to breakdown fats from the diet.  Fats in food that pass the bile duct cause bile to move out of the gall bladder to aid in the digestion of fats.

Never use any products that aid in liver, kidney, lymphatic or cellular detoxification without having the above in place.  You must have hydration, good urination, and bowel movements.  The pipes must be open first!

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Eating Dirt

Have you ever eaten dirt?  Although you may be unaware, the answer is likely yes.  Perhaps you have inadvertently eaten particles of unwashed produce or consumed Pepto Bismol or Kaopectate, which contain clays.  Geophagy is the word to describe the consumption of clay.  This practice has been used to aid in child birth, male virility and various other cultural beliefs.  My father remembered as a child that a black woman he knew commonly ate clay as a remedy for intestinal issues.  This was part of the African culture.  My favorite earth mined substance is diatomaceous earth (DM). 

DM is the fossilized remains of hard-shelled algae known as a diatom.  This multi use silica abrasive has been used in toothpaste, in scrubs, deodorizers, facial masks, and as an insecticide.  DM can absorb six times its weight in water and is used in cat litter boxes. 

As an insecticide, it absorbs lipids or fats from the waxy outer layer of insects causing dehydration.  It is an effective, non-toxic substance that can be used as a dust for fleas or cockroaches. It can be taken by animals or humans internally for intestinal parasites.  For dogs you can make cornmeal biscuits with DM.   Wet DM for horses and mix in their feed.  And for humans, mix a tablespoonful in juice and drink.  The only precaution is not to breathe the dust because it causes silicosis, a respiratory disorder.

Silica is also an important mineral that is vital for skin, hair, and nails and for the recalcification of bones.  You will find it in any quality calcium/mineral supplement or hair, skin, and nail formulas.  It is commonly listed as horsetail, an herb which contains silica.  Silica may also interfere with the body’s retention of aluminum. 

The Homeopathic Materia Medica for Silica terra (Flint) is useful among other things “for soreness in the feet from the instep to the sole”.  I can offer a personal testimony for its effectiveness.  

Honey Garlic and Vinegar

Long before patented medicine, tonics were homemade remedies made from common household ingredients.  A tonic is considered a medicinal preparation that is intended to strengthen or improve body function or well being.  You could make you own tonic from just about anything including: vinegar, honey, molasses, lemon juice, garlic, cinnamon, maple syrup, cayenne pepper, ginger, baking soda, peppermint leaves, or Himalayan salt.  There are hundreds of choices and recipes that are touted as a remedy, cure, or miracle.  While results vary, it is certain that each of the above ingredients have nourishing and medicinal properties that can stimulate change in the body.

One such “Miracle Elixir” is the Garlic, Apple Cider Vinegar, and honey tonic.  This tonic is well represented on the Internet and is available as a book, “The Honey, Garlic and Vinegar Miracle”, and “Honey, Garlic, & Vinegar Home Remedies”.  I had to try it and found it almost palatable if diluted in juice.

One Cup of Raw Local Honey

One Cup of Apple Cider Vinegar (Bragg’s)

8 Cloves of garlic

Blend on high speed for 60 seconds and leave in the refrigerator for five days.  Two teaspoonfuls daily is reported to aide an array of dis-ease including arthritis, elevated blood pressure, high cholesterol, obesity, colds and infections, to name a few. 

Where is the evidence?  The National Cancer institute offers information that garlic significantly lowers the risk of cancer.  Vinegar is a foundation of many tonics with impressive benefits, especially for arthritis, blood sugar control, and as an anti-infective.  Honey contains at least 31 nutrients including 13 minerals, component parts of nine vitamins, six acids and four key enzymes. 

With all this support it may be worth your effort.

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Natural Emotional Memory

                                                      Scent Point at Six Months Old

A dog’s instinct is to chase.  Another instinct is to pause before pouncing on their prey.   Pointing dogs find game by scent and have a more developed instinct to pause, hence, pointing out the location of the game.  These pointing dogs are then trained to maintain the point until the game bird is flushed and shot.  When Rikki, my German Shorthaired Pointer, is on point, she is almost mesmerized.  If you look at her eyes, she appears to be in a trance like state as she stands statuesque never blinking or moving.  This trance is certainly an emotional experience with the reward of powerfully positive brain chemistry (neurotransmitters).

When she was pregnant, my older friend suggested that I put her on point saying it would help the offspring later.  While I did not entirely believe it would make any difference, it certainly could not hurt.  Much to my amazement the puppies demonstrated an unusually strong pointing instinct without training.  They would stand point and not give chase as previous litters.  Is this purely genetic or did the puppies experience the emotions of the mother in the womb making it more likely for them to respond in the same way? 

This example opens many possible questions.  Could the emotional experiences of the mother be “imprinted” on the offspring?  The concept of cellular memory has been studied in many life forms including yeast, worms, and mice.  There are many theories as to how such memory works.  We are a culmination of all the life experiences of the past.  In some ways our brain is hard wired to seek out and experience the same thoughts, feelings, or emotions that we have always experienced.  Changing these patterns is the frontier of medicine.

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Parasites?

                                                         Hook Worm (hook like) Mouth

At one time the image of the Southern “redneck” was viewed as a person poorly clothed, barefoot, lazy and of poor intelligence.  Some were thin with large abdomens and poor muscle development.  This was the Southern anemia caused by hookworms that enter the body as larvae thru the skin of bare feet.  They then enter the blood stream, migrate to the lungs, up the trachea and are swallowed to the digestive system.  The parasites feed on our blood.  They mate in our intestines and produce thousand of larvae that are passed on thru feces.  This was an illness of poor hygiene, clothing and the lack of adequate facilities.

In this day and age, little thought is given to human parasites. We are of course diligent about worming our pets.  Given their dietary indiscretions, worming our pets is a good idea.  So is there any risk to humans? 

You could be at risk if you have pets, allow them in your home, and/or sleep with them.  There is the old saying that “if you lie down with dogs you wake up with fleas” and perhaps other creatures.  Another potential risk is eating in restaurants that have workers that do not wash properly.   Some workers from the USA or other countries may have poor hygiene habits or contracted parasites from other parts of the world. Other risks include eating poorly cooked meat, especially pork, or eating sushi.  At risk recreational activities include swimming in lakes or rivers.

Symptoms of parasite problems include itching of personal areas, loss of appetite, hunger without satiety, constipation, protein deficiency, dry skin and hair, insomnia, fatigue, anemia, abdominal discomfort and grinding teeth at night.  Keep in mind that parasites consume your nutrition and create waste that your body has to deal with. 

Stool samples are not always conclusive.  You can have a negative stool sample but still have parasites.  So if you are at risk or have any of the symptoms listed above you might consider a parasite cleanse.  Herbal products include Wormwood, Black Walnut, Fennel seed, Pumpkin seed, Betel Nut, and West Indian Pink root.  This combination can be found in Verma Comp.  Adding the homepathic combination Verma HP is a great addition.

Perception Reframing and EVOX

Perception (from the Latin perceptio, percipio) is the organization, identification and interpretation of sensory information in order to represent and understand the environment.

EVOX Video

On April 14, 1912, the Titanic was 4 days into the voyage to New York.  She hit an iceberg at 11:40 PM resulting in the loss of 1,502 people.  The iceberg we see is usually about 10% of what is there.  Such are our perceptions.  Our minds take in a huge amount of information, filter the information resulting in our perspective.  This perception may be accurate, but we percieve more than we are aware of, which is more often felt than thought about.  Have you ever noticed how individuals will see the same event but report it differently?  How do we see the same thing in such different ways?

One answer is that we all have different life experiences that may distort what we see.  The concept of our past experiences that are carried with us translates into emotional baggage.  This baggage requires some level of energy to carry, maintain or suppress.  We all have some form of baggage, but the worst is past abuse in any form.  Some may feel emotionally blocked, angry, trapped, frustrated, or out of control.  This leaves us caught in the same old external or internal arugments. 

There is a saying that we are what we think.  We are also what we do not think.  The unconscious thoughts are akin to the 90 percent of the iceberg under the surface of the water.  This is what really runs the show.   

EVOX is a computerized system that helps to “reframe” perception.  It uses voice mapping technology related to health, work, relationships, athletic preformance, and other aspects of life.  It is particularly for traumatic experiences.  EVOX uses a multi-sensory communication system using light, sound and electro-magnetic media that gently allows a shift in perception.  This can be a life changing modality. 

EVOX can be the missing piece for:
- those that have done hours of therapy without significant results.
-those that do not believe they can be well.
-those that can never quit get beyond their past.
-those that can not maintain a relationship.
-those that are in their head so much they can not be present with their family.

PMS or Progesterone Deficency Syndrome

It was two days before her cycle started and already the bloating, headaches, cramps and short-temper had set in.  Knowing it was PMS, she still wanted to somehow blame it all on her husband, food she ate, overwork and life in general.   Every little nuance of her husband’s presence, let alone all the things the children did, made her want to scream at the top of her lungs.  There weren't enough hours in the day to allow her to be alone, so she suffered through, trying desperately to keep from biting someone's head off while offering her usual "fine" as the standard answer not to hurt someone's feelings.  Just one glass of wine and the end of the day is all she could think of to keep her sane.  Finally, her cycle started, along with the usual bodily flush, release of tension and gradual mood swing that kept her thinking all would be ok until .....the next time!

I can relate to this both as a husband and from an academic physiology perspective.  A woman’s 28 day cycle can be simplistically divided into two 14-day parts that changes on day 14 when ovulation occurs.  The first 14 days is primarily estrogen dominant while the last 14 days is primarily progesterone dominant.  Progesterone starts to rise after ovulation.  If the egg is fertilized then progesterone will stay elevated to maintain the pregnancy.  If not, then progesterone peaks about day 21 and gradually drops.  When progesterone is low enough the period begins.

Some women experience Premenstrual Syndrome that can occur earlier than just 2 days before her cycle.  This is a progesterone deficiency syndrome.  While some are treated with antidepressants the more natural approach is to use compounded sustained release progesterone capsules twice daily about days 14 to 26.  I believe sustained-release hormone therapy is better as your body does not dump your entire day’s hormones at one time.  If you want to be more accurate, saliva testing is available with sampling about every 2 to 3 days for 28 days.  This shows the monthly relationship between estrogen and progesterone from which a custom therapy can be created.

There are other approaches that may include the homeopathic Sepia, or PMS HP.  Also consider Breast Massage as was posted June 8, 2012.

Hysterectomy, Progesterone, and the Whole Body Effect

In 1966, Forever Feminine by gynecologist Robert Wilson, was a best seller.  It touted the use of Premarin® for women to maintain their youth.  For some, the “side effect” of this therapy was endometrial cancer.  The solution was to add a progestin or progesterone the last two weeks of each month.  The progesterone protected the uterus from cell overgrowth caused by the estrogen to minimize the cancer risk.  This simplified approach is an effort to mimicking the natural monthly hormonal changes a woman experiences.

Most estrogen is prescribed to manage hormone symptoms such as hot flashes and night sweats.  I often hear health professionals say that if you do not have a uterus then you do not need progesterone.   After all, the drug is no longer needed to protect the uterus.  This is a drug management approach not a whole body approach. 

A woman’s hormonal changes that happen in the ovaries and uterus IS a whole body experience.  Progesterone has action all over the body.  Perhaps it is time to shift our thoughts to whole body hormone management instead of symptom management.  This is a quality of life issue.  Why would we just look at estrogen when other hormones play other roles?  Could adding just one hormone cause a shift of balance in the body?  It did in the above example.  Does estrogen cause cell growth in breast tissue?  Every woman knows there are changes in her breast related to her cycle.  Can progesterone mediate cell growth in areas other than the uterus? 

Whole body hormone balancing is possible.  The use of saliva testing for hormone levels can be revealing.  And then if you use estrogen in any form, you should always take progesterone.

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Got Intent?

As I woke this morning, the windows were open and the rain fell with the steady washing that invites you to stay in bed just a little longer.  What was my intent for the day? One was to write this blog on intent.  I also intend to eat breakfast, go to work, etc.  The point is that we all have the skill to make a decision and take action on that decision.  This is a skill that can be used to make conscious powerful changes in your life and health.

 Intention is a conscious purposeful decision that directs an individual’s actions toward a specific goal.  This actually means I can make a conscious decision to be happy.  I can choose to be at peace.  I can improve my health by the choices I make.  Today is a good day and my intent is to be kind and helpful to others.  Intention is everything.

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Andropause

The 55-year-old man enjoyed physical work on his farm.  He particularly enjoyed working his nephews and other high school students in the hay field.  This was hot, physical work.  Physical labor can be satisfying, at least for some.  The other enjoyment was that he could out work any of the young men.  Well, until one day while unloading at the barn in need of a break,  he though, “I must be losing my edge.”  At that moment one of the boys said, “Can we take a break?”  While giving quiet thanks, the older man said, “Sure, if you have to.”

As men age, sometimes our self-image does not match reality.  We can be overweight and bald and still think of ourselves in our youth.  What a wake up call when we discover that we cannot keep up.  The drive diminishes and we may become content to hold the remote in front of the boob tube. 

Is it time for a tune up?  Men can experience a decline in testosterone as they age.  The book,  "The Youth Effect", by Ronald Brown, MD, is written for women about hormone replacement.  Chapter 9 is for men in “andropause”.  There is the case of Harold, an 88-year-old that was not ready to lose his spark. 

Hormone replacement for men is not as popular as for women, but there are strong arguments for testosterone replacement therapy.  Testosterone replacement for men can contribute to male health including muscle mass, sex drive, mental function, motivation and a general sense of well being. 

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Fishy Business

It is naturally confusing to consider that the news reporting the benefits of fish oil “may” be overstated.  Last week, The Journal of the American Medical Association published a conclusion that:  “Overall, omega-3 supplementation was not associated with a lower risk of all causes of mortality, cardiac death, sudden death, myocardial infarction, or stroke based on relative and absolute measures of association.”   I will suppress my sarcasm here…or not.  It’s not like every time I take fish oil; I think that I am beating sudden death.  I would actually prefer sudden death over some other choices. 

Studies are about the herd effect.  This means that we look at one supplement or intervention for a group of individuals. We then measure the outcome of a predetermined area such as heart disease.   Then we draw some conclusion that may or may not alter the choices we make.  There is no way to design a study that measures all the benefits, effects, or side effects for any group of individuals.  We have different genetics, diets, toxic exposures and are therefore all biochemically unique.  The true complexity is enormous.

How does one make sense of what supplements are beneficial?  After all, you can find information to substantiate any position.  I prefer a common sense approach.  For those that have studied fat biochemistry (or even care to) there is an amazing amount of “functional” information about fish oil and omega 3 fats.  Good fats contribute to how well each cell wall functions.  The cell wall is the brains of each cell as the gatekeeper of nutrients, waste, and cellular communication.  

As with any food, the quality of the fats you consume is imperative to your health.  Avoid all trans-fats and excess animal fat.  Quality fish oil adds balance to excess consumption of animal fats that become pro-inflammatory.  This means that fish oil can decrease inflammation to reduce pain in joints.  Fish oil is still a valuable supplement and can contribute to overall quality of life.

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Fish Oil Products

Natural Automation

We live our lives on automatic pilot as if we are hard wired to do the same thing day in and day out.  Just observe yourself in the morning.  You may dress in the same order right down to which sock or shoe you put on first.  We go to work, do what “needs” to be done, and push ourselves beyond our continuous capabilities.  Then we wake up one day to discover our poor health.  Good health is the most valuable thing you have in this world. Now is the time to take an active role in improving your health.

As a pharmacist and naturopath, which for some may be counterintuitive, I get many usual and unusual consultative opportunities.  These included pre-conception wellness, breast-feeding, infants and child wellness, attention deficient, women’s/men’s health, and cancer.  Most are in the area of women’s health relative to hormones and wellness.  Women seem to be more proactive in taking care of their health issues. 

On the unusual side, a recent phone consultation was to help increase the sperm count for a breeding dog.  While this sounds strange, the individual knew what she wanted and had a defined goal.  Do you?  A great place to start is to evaluate what you want in terms of your overall health.  Many will translate that into things such as weight loss, better energy, better sleep, or the absence of some symptom.  Most of us know where we need to improve but perhaps have difficulty making that step.  This is where a wellness consultation may be helpful. 

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Thankfulness

I bought a 2 year old mare and started her training.  After she was trained, I sold her to a young man that a few years later had to sell her.  I bought her back and planned to sell her again.  A potential buyer came to see her and as I shared her attributes I started wondering why I would sell such a nice horse.  I decided then that if this lady did not buy her that I would take her off the market and keep her.  I thought it only fair to share my thoughts which of course sound like a sales pitch.  Nonetheless, she decided to pass which was ok with me.  I would keep “Sunny”.  The next day she asked to buy her but I was off the hook because of the earlier disclaimer.  What’s the point?  May times we take for granted what we have and fail to recognize value.  I am happy with my decision.  Here is the video I made of “Hot Water’s Sunny”.

Chicken Soup

“Chicken Soup for the Soul” has offered inspiration and motivation for many and has its roots in a classic comfort food.  As a folk remedy for the common cold, its ingredients are nourishing and have been shown to have anti-inflammatory properties.  The popular food was a big seller for Campbell’s Soups beginning in the 1930’s.

The classic chicken soup was made from the old hen that was too tough to cook otherwise.  It is also a combination of whatever you want to add with many variations.  Our food choices can be the most important health decisions of the day.  Quality food equals quality health.

There is nothing better than home cooked food and one of my favorites is chicken soup.  It is inexpensive, nutritious, and easy to make.  Here are some tips for the best soup of the day.

1. Free range chicken is best but use what is available.
2. Include all the parts minus any excess fat.  Skin, neck, and liver can be discarded later.
3. Add one or two tablespoonfuls of Bragg’s apple cider vinegar to the water.  This will help to remove minerals such as calcium from the bones.
4. After bringing to a boil, reduce the heat so you can do other things and not have to worry about over cooking.
5. Add one or two tablespoonfuls of Himalayan salt, which is rich in other minerals. 
6. When the chicken is cooked, remove from heat, de-bone and place in the refrigerator.  Cold chicken can be cut into chunks that will stay in one piece. 
7. Add your vegetables to the broth; onion, celery, and carrots. 
8. Add one cup of brown rice instead of noodles. 
9. Mushrooms and garlic are nice additions. 
10. Spices may include parsley, cilantro and pepper. 
11. You can freeze containers for future use. 
12. While the cooking time may be long, the actual preparation is not.  Try it and you may never open another can.

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Cinnamon of Ceylon

The 1958, “Life” magazine advertisement touted sugar as the pure energy food for growing boys.  As a child we mixed sugar and cinnamon in a shaker to be sprinkled over white toast covered with margarine.  What a treat!  At the time none had any idea how unhealthy the choice but it mattered not.  I guess it is a wonder we survived.  Obesity was uncommon for we were always sent outside to play.

We had no idea that cinnamon was a tree bark or that is was good for blood sugar control.    We didn’t even know it was mentioned in the Bible as holy anointing oil or as a perfume for the lover’s bed.  We did not know that in ancient times its source was a closely guarded secret by spice traders.  We did not know that the Portuguese, Dutch, and British fought over the territory of Ceylon (Sri Lanka) for the precious spice.  Sri Lanka was the source for the true cinnamon (Cinnamonum verum).  Cassia, also mentioned in the Bible, from China is a more common spice and likely the product you purchase in stores.  Ceylon cinnamon is more aromatic, but cassia has a stronger flavor. 

A 2003 study by the National Institute of Health demonstrated that cinnamon reduced blood glucose levels in type 2 diabetics.  It also improved triglycerides 23 to 30%, and cholesterol 12 to 27%.  Cinnamon has also been reported as a potent antiviral. 

Ceylon cinnamon is a super food/herb that can be taken as a daily tonic for individuals with type 2 diabetes.  One teaspoonful in water daily is the usual dose.  Of course diabetics should avoid sugar, corn syrup and diet soft drinks.  Cinnamon, especially cassia, is not intended for use in pregnancy or individuals taking blood thinners as it can increase bleeding.

When I Married You

The young female pharmacist that works here is getting married.  All the preparation reminds me of the newlywed perspective.   Some find this offensive but I have said that being in love is almost like being mentally ill.  It is such a euphoric state that nothing else seems to matter.  It is better than any drug but who can maintain that state?  Of course as we all know, it changes.  When my wife and I married she had three children and I had four children.  At one time all seven were teenagers (four boys and three girls).  Talk about insanity.    During the music writing part of my life I composed this song about the contrast and struggle of our relationship.  I am happy to say that our marriage survived our now grown children.

"When I Married You"

Natural Differences Part ?

As with most things, the more you learn about something the more you realize how little you actually know.  So after writing about some of the differences in men and women I have come up (I actually borrowed this from someone else) with a machine to make the necessary adjustments in male and female hormones.  This is how things work.









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Natural Difference Part Three

Sometime men and women can get something stuck in their head that has nothing to do with reality.  This happens when we assume the motives for some action.  I am reminded of the story of the women whose husband was distant.  He barely responded to her conversation.  She thought the worst and her imagination went wild.  She felt as if he did not love her any more.  All the time he was thinking, ‘lawn mower won’t start-can’t figure out why!’  He may also make assumptions about why his wife behaves one way or another.  It is better to ask.  She could ask why you are so distant.  He could ask, have I done something wrong.  If she says, “Nothing is wrong”, you know you are in trouble.

Men communicating with another man is different that a woman communicating with other women.  I have heard it said that, “People listen to others so they can have their turn to talk.”  I think this is true for men but I am not sure about women.  Of course this is not true listening.   

Women seem to be able to follow more than one conversation at a time.  It seems that it is also acceptable for all to talk at the same time.  A man can follow one conversation at a time, which is why you will never hear two men talking at the same time unless they are arguing.  A man considers it rude to be interrupted.  Women do not think of it as interrupting, just communicating.

It also appears that in some women/women conversations there are assumptions of the motives another woman may have.  Perhaps these ulterior motives are real and are understood by women.  Women that have these perceptions may also assume men have them as well.  The men that I associate with do not have ulterior motives and don’t play games.  Our motives are direct motives:  food, work, play, sex, and sleep (not necessarily in any order).  We are just that simple.  That’s it.

“Live Well!’